TIMESMAN| Remembering my departed kin

FRANKLY SPEAKING, I can’t remember anymore the names of my grandfather and grandmother on my father side as well as the names of my lolo and lola on my mother side. That was too long ago and I’m not sure if their resting places are still somewhere as I don’t remember visiting them during All Saints’ Day and All Souls’ Day.

The remains of my father (Julio) and my mother (Amparo) were both at the Angelus Memorial Park in Bacoor, Cavite after these were brought there from the Manila South cemetery where they were previously laid to rest.

Our eldest brother Paquito who died last week only was buried in Cupang, Muntinlupa City where he resided.

The remains of our only sister Virginia were entombed at San Pedro, Laguna near the family residence.

Our youngest brother Antonio who died in the mountain of Quezon province while fighting for his ideology together with his other comrades during Martial Law years, was buried in Navotas cemetery where his family lives.

Remegio who also chose to live here, was buried at the Manila Memorial Park in Magtuod at Diversion Road. Her daughter Weng Weng was also buried there.

Of the six siblings, Bayani, who lives in Pilar Village in Las Pinas, Metro Manila, and I are the only ones alive.

On my immediate family, my wife Virgie’s remains were buried at the Davao Memorial Park in Matina, adjacent to the plot of her father Juan (Milan), and younger brother Jimmy.

On this solemn observance of All Saints’ Day and All Souls’ Day on Nov. 1 and 2, respectively, it is only proper for us the living to offer prayers for our departed members that their souls may forever rest in peace.

For sure in the case of all my family members from the first, second, and third generations who died ahead of us, they must be at peace in heaven by now as they are not only on the side of God Almighty but as well as in company of the same people they cherished while still on earth.

  • Lord Jesus Christ,
    by your own three days in the tomb,
    you hallowed the graves of all who believe in you
    and so made the grave a sign of hope
    that promises resurrection
    even as it claims our mortal bodies.Grant that our brother/sister, Julio, Amparo, Paquito, Virginia, Antonio, Remegio, Virginia (Virgie) may sleep here in peace
    until you awaken him/her to glory,
    for you are the resurrection and the life.
    Then he/she will see you face to face
    and in your light will see light
    and know the splendor of God,
    for you live and reign forever and ever.
  • O God,
    by whose mercy the faithful departed find rest,
    send your holy Angel to watch over this grave.
    Through Christ our Lord.


Since I can’t go to Manila anymore for the visitation of the gravesites of my parents, brothers and sister, I instead prefer to stay at home where I will light candles and offer prayers for them.

I will make an advance visit of my wife’s grave site at the Davao Memorial Park to light candles and offer prayer. I will repeat the same offering to her plot today. I will also visit the plot of my brother Remegio at Magtuod on the same date.

Because of expected traffic on city streets and over-crowding of people visiting their departed loved ones in parks and cemeteries, we decided not visiting Virgie’s grave on Nov. 1 and 2.

We join the nation in the observance of these two holy days!

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