Family Matters: He who puts his trust on God is wise

Many of us pray and naturally, we keep praying until we see the answer to that prayer.

Then we do the same and thankful that our prayer life has results! This is cause and effect but it needs a little attention because if we are not very careful, the essence of God can be omitted because of our desire to have our prayers answered. Meaning, we focus so much on the motion and output but we set aside the One in-charge of the whole process.

One day, a friend came to me asking why her prayer is not being answered. She prayed intently, she added, and positive answer to that prayer would mean a lot to her. She had been praying for years and no iota of hope is on sight. But she said she won’t give up. God loves her, she says, and she has reached this far only to give up. No way!

So this became our topic of conversation. I began with words like, obviously, God loves you, the same way that He loves me and everyone around us. However, let us not make the mistake of thinking that His love is equated with answers to prayers. A lady who had been praying for a partner in life for years and not being answered doesn’t mean that God doesn’t love her. In fact, God loves her so much that He wills for her to remain single and spare her from future heartaches, which only God can see. Yet, there are situations to test our faith, and take note, not to test His love when He answers our prayers at the last minute.

The lady and I have warmed up a bit about our topic and shifted to the question,
“Why would God allow us then to go through the process of waiting , praying and trusting yet do not see positive results at the end through our prayers?”

They say that to effectively draw out a positive result from a person without touching a raw nerve unnecessarily is to gently throw a question that he himself can answer. So I asked, “What lessons did you learn during the process of waiting, praying, agonizing in prayer and feeling like God was just dragging His foot just to meet your basic question every day?”

A knowing look and brightened eyes surfaced on her face as she narrated,

“Yes, I learned to be more patient.
I guess I can understand what others are going through similar to mine and I can sincerely empathize with what they are going through.
I learned to wait upon God.
“Come to think of it,” she says, “I guess, God too, has the right and option to answer my prayer the way He wants. I can’t pray and say, ‘You have no choice, God but You have to answer according to my wishes.’ I am no different to a spoiled brat if I act that way. I guess, it is time to thank God for the process I have gone through in prayer. Maybe, all along, He already answered my prayer, and the answer is ‘no’ ”

It feels good when your counselee shows a certain level of maturity after such an experience. But it is also a different matter if we see people try to mix a prayer plus another energy to add up to the effectivity of an answered prayer. An example is advising somebody to remain positive which sometimes mistaken as ‘faith’ and to keep away from being negative when you are in prayer. It is almost like a ‘knock on wood’ wish. Believing the object of your faith which to me is Jesus, gives me the assurance that the prayer I uttered is put under His care. Positive and negative vibes are not included in my personal relationship with Him. This piece of song says it all:

Trust His Heart
Babbie Mason
All things work for our good
Though sometimes we don’t see
How they could
Struggles that break our hearts in two
Sometimes blind us to the truth
Our Father knows what’s best for us
His ways are not our own
So when your pathway grows dim
And you just don’t see Him,
Remember you’re never alone
God is too wise to be mistaken
God is too good to be unkind
So when you don’t understand
When don’t see His plan
When you can’t trace His hand
Trust His Heart.

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